Words that outlast the session

COMING SOON!

Every child is different, and so is every parent. But what is not different is the love you have for your children and every parent's hope that their children will grow up to become the best versions of themselves. This book is about helping you navigate that dream, a framework to realise it step by step, year by year, as your children become more of what they will grow up to be.

The first night home, nobody sleeps. Two adults stand over a cot doing arithmetic about a person who cannot tell them anything, because somebody has to. That arrangement is correct. It is also the arrangement that is still running twenty-five years later, when a man in a flat in another city is woken by his mother, who has already rung his landlord about the damp and already worked out that he should leave the job. Nothing announces the change in between. No letter arrives from the school. The handover happens, when it happens, because a household went looking for it.

Eighteen Year Solution follows one family from a first night home to a daughter at twenty. Frances and Otto hold every decision at six weeks and none at nineteen, and the book shows exactly how each one moved: what they measured before they handed it over, the two they handed over too early, the one they took back, and the one they should have given away years before they did. When they separate, the method has to run across two houses and it very nearly does not.

Built on forty-six verified studies and written for one household at a time, including the ones with two addresses and the ones with one adult.